"Incomplete endings inhibit new beginnings" was the message from Dr. Kathy Hearn at the latest relationship class I took with her. In bringing this collection of words to heart, we did an exercise meant to allow space for awareness of our present state and what we may need more work with. To the best of my ability, I'll share what we did so that you can receive the closure and peace that it gave to me.
***There is no wrong way to do this. As you begin, you will discover what works best for you.***
As always, start with a meditation. Breathe, relax, get present to the moment. Then, take a blank sheet of paper and a pen or some colored pens. Draw a line down the middle, going down the long ways on the paper. Mark your birthdate on one end and the present date on the other.
Now, make lines across the paper writing the names of significant relationships through out your life that have ended. These can be people close to you, situations, divorce date, death of?, anything that has ended and meant something to you.
Go back to each of the marks and write a small note about any regrets you may have, what you could have done better, what you learned from the experience--anything that strikes you as needing to be written. Then write what feels appropriate: Forgiven and/or Forgotten. Give this some thought. Is the person truly forgiven, or are you pushing down past hurts in order not to deal with them now. Reflect on how you feel. No one is going to see this. It's okay if you are still working on forgiving. Be gentle with yourself.
When you are ready to move on to the next person or situation, place a cross next to the person you just worked on. This gives a sense of closure and acknowledgement to the situation.
Once you are done, read over what you have done. Give yourself credit for having delved inside to truly discover where you are in your state of healing and forgiveness of yourself and others. Be aware of relationships that may still need attention and love in order to move past them.
Complete your endings so that you can experience terrific new beginnings.
Heather Leigh
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